True Love

Today, on Valentine’s Day, the talk of love abounds. Gifts of chocolate and flowers are expected – as well as dining out. But do these things reflect true love? I think of a poem written centuries ago that describes what true love is:

Let Me Not to the Marriage of True Minds

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds, 

Or bends with the remover to remove: 

O, no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests ad is never shaken; 

It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken. 

Love’s not time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle’scompass come; 

Love alters not with his brief hours annd weeks, 

But bears it out even to the edge of doom. 

If this be error and upon me proved, 

I never writ, nor no man ever loved. 

William Shakespeare

I believe Shakespeare wrote true words. On this day we should not be looking at the breath of first love as an example of what love is. Instead we should be looking at those people who have loved over the years in spite of the difficulties they have encountered together. We should be celebrating the love that has supported the other, the love that has grown stronger over the years.

On Valentine’s day I do not receive flowers, nor chocolates, nor a Hallmark card. But what I do know is that my husband loves me in spite of the difficulties we have experienced. I have grown older and shown the many sides of my personality – and he continues to love me. He shows me support day in and day out; and not only on the day that has been set aside for commercial purposes.

On this day I have a Valentine – and my husband has one. And the love received from our children is an added bonus.

What do you think of Valentine’s Day?

© Colline Kook-Chun, 2016

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30 thoughts on “True Love

  1. We don’t really celebrate this day, I think each day we wake up healthy and beside our loved ones is a purpose for celebration. We know each other bad and good behaviors and working on them together. We appreciate each other and going through bad and good together. That’s is more than one day we should celebrate. Blessed and beautiful day to you and yours! ☺

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  2. Arrgh! Colline you just spoke to my heart. I tell people not to be fooled with the puff and glitz of the early start of romance. It’s the love that has supported each other through the hurdles and test of time that leaves me breathless. Well said 🙂

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  3. I agree with the “commercial purposes” of this day – and it really seems like a holiday for dating folks – or for single people – like I have seen a lot of singles give other friends gifts or they buy their own gift –

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  4. The glitz and all there is tends to subside with time, When the romantic candle lights refuse to burn, the essence of the true love of friendship comes to light and that keeps us going even in days when we don’t like one another, The bond of Love keeps us together.

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  5. I think you, your husband and your children are very blessed! What a beautiful poem by Shakespeare…but I must confess I do love getting the flowers and the card. I don’t need them and I would be ok not to get or give them, I’m just a hopeless romantic!!! (she gushes) So nice to have met you at Jackie O’s party!! 🙂

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  6. “Love’s not time’s fool” such a wisdom summed up in a single verse. I agree with your comment of Valentine’s Colline. Something so important in life should not be commercialised and banalised like it is now. I can’t wait to listen to three versions of the HW’s song, some time this evening after work, and therapy. Wishing you a good week, Colline. Hugs

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    1. Commercialising love has given the young the wrong expectations about love I think. True love stays around when things are difficult and does not give up. I hope that this is what I am teaching my own children.

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