Today, on Valentine’s Day, the talk of love abounds. Gifts of chocolate and flowers are expected – as well as dining out. But do these things reflect true love? I think of a poem written centuries ago that describes what true love is:
Let Me Not to the Marriage of True Minds
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O, no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests ad is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’scompass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours annd weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
I believe Shakespeare wrote true words. On this day we should not be looking at the breath of first love as an example of what love is. Instead we should be looking at those people who have loved over the years in spite of the difficulties they have encountered together. We should be celebrating the love that has supported the other, the love that has grown stronger over the years.
On Valentine’s day I do not receive flowers, nor chocolates, nor a Hallmark card. But what I do know is that my husband loves me in spite of the difficulties we have experienced. I have grown older and shown the many sides of my personality – and he continues to love me. He shows me support day in and day out; and not only on the day that has been set aside for commercial purposes.
On this day I have a Valentine – and my husband has one. And the love received from our children is an added bonus.
What do you think of Valentine’s Day?
© Colline Kook-Chun, 2016