Day 17: Longing for Home

As I have adjusted to life in a large North American city, days are lived as in any other part of the world. We go to work, eat together, watch television, and go out as we would if we were living in South Africa. There are times, though, that I long for home and the family we have who still resides there.

Often these moments occur during times of celebration. Christmas has always been for me a time of family and, even though I spend a wonderful time with my husband and children, I do think of those that are living in Africa: siblings, parents, nephews and nieces. I think of everyone getting together and sometimes wish that we could join them. Even though Christmas brings out the fiercest longing, I do think of those back home when Easter comes around, when our birthdays are celebrated, and when the children graduate to the next stage of their schooling career. I think of my mom often and wish she could join us when the children participate in a concert, or when we celebrate an eventful occasion in our lives.

I realise that this longing will be something that I will always have within me. And, with this acceptance, I am able to enjoy the moment and to be content with the family that I do have around me in Toronto.

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© Colline Kook-Chun, 2014

(This post was written for the FMF 31 day challenge hosted by Kate Motaung. Today’s prompt is: long)


20 thoughts on “Day 17: Longing for Home

  1. Colline – It is amazing how certain events in life cause us to long for “home” or for certain people. I agree with you in that, I do think we will always have that within us. I am grateful for the longing as it keeps people & places alive in my heart & mind 🙂 So glad to be your neighbor again at FMF!


  2. I experienced the same but with a twist. I am still in the same place where we raised our family, but our sons have all moved away – one to Boston, one to Oregon. Neither is an easy jaunt for a visit. I miss sharing all those important events with my children and grandchildren. It seems impossible these days to get everyone together in one place.


    1. I know it is just as hard for those who stay behind as for those who leave. My mom, though, has always encouraged us to stay as she believes it is for the benefit of my family.


  3. When we were living in Edinburgh, we once spent Christmas there, rather than going back home (Greece). It just wasn’t the same. We missed people, friends, family, customs and traditions. We even managed to miss some traditional food. So, I understand how you are feeling. Still, enjoy your time with your family in Toronto; it’s always fantastic to travel and enjoy life in a new place.


  4. Unfortunately when our paths in life are changed dramatically, there is always a yearning for some things from the past, enjoyable occassions, familiar faces and special events.
    Homesickness is an uncomfortable feeling, but when we accept the change that we have chosen, we can then see the benefits we have reaped.
    I do hope you get the chance to return to your homeland for a visit sometime in the future.
    At least that will give you something to look forward to and plan for Colline.


  5. you’ve made THE right choice for Canada and you won’t regret it… I’ve known lots of Europeans who have settled in Canada these past 20 years and they’ve been really contents… 🙂 one huge advantage you’ve had compared to other foreigners: you speak perfect English and French(?), which is more than useful… 🙂 bon courage et bonne chance, you’ll make it, babe! 😉
    * * *
    @”I realise that this longing will be something that I will always have within me. And, with this acceptance, I am able to enjoy the moment and to be content with the family that I do have around me in Toronto.” – as an adult who has moved to another country, you’ll always feel ‘uprooted'(dépaysé), but your kids will be fine, I can bet… 🙂


  6. I’d say I’m rather fortunate, Colline. I’m “only” 400 miles from home and can go back relatively easily whenever I like. That’s not at all like crossing an ocean, going from one continent and hemisphere to another. They’re right. The feeling of homesickness will never really go away but they will lessen as you watch your children grow and flourish in your new homeland.


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