Day 10: Caring for My Children

My first job when I arrived in Toronto was caring for my children. When we discovered that the cost of daycare was prohibitive, my husband and I made the decision that I would look after my children myself. From early morning to evening, I spent time with them and took them with me wherever I went. This was true especially during my first months in the city when my husband was back in Johannesburg working.

Have I ever regretted the decision to be a stay at home mom? Never. I have had the opportunity to watch my children grow from infants to the girls they are now. I had the chance to see their first steps, hear their first words, watch them as they wrote a word for the first time. Watching over them in the first years of their lives enabled me to be what I had longed for – a mom who was able to savour her children’s childhood moments. It was not always a rosy experience as there were times when I longed for adult conversation. However, the time spent with my girls have given them a sense of security and belonging.

Now that they are older and more independent, they no longer need as much care as they did before. I do find myself still watching over them though albeit in a different way.

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© Colline Kook-Chun, 2014

(This post was written for the FMF 31 day challenge hosted by Kate Motaung. Today’s prompt is: care)

26 thoughts on “Day 10: Caring for My Children

  1. What a precious time with your girls! Thought I’m sure there were days when you thought you were going to lose it, I am equally sure that it was a special time for all of you. What a blessing to spend so much time with the little ones you love so dearly! 🙂

    Visiting from FMF!


    1. There were days when I craved the conversation of an adult. That was easily solved, though, when I made a friend who was also a stay at home mom with children the same age as mine.


  2. After my twins were born and I had 3 children under the age of 3 I decided to stay home. Daycare at the time for 3 infants was so expensive that most of my pay would have been eaten up by daycare alone. I stayed home for 5 years and never regretted it for one minute. It meant that I had to work longer to get my full pension but I love what I do and I’ve worked beyond what I need to do for my full pension anyway.


    1. You certainly made a wise decision. It is not worth having someone else look after your children if all that you earn is given to someone else. These were our thoughts too.


  3. We made much the same decision because my partner travels a lot for work and, without family support, it was difficult to find childcare to fit in with his random travel patterns. Like you, I’m so glad I had time with my son. He is now almost 17 and preparing for final school exams. Suddenly I feel as though I’m on the brink of a new life. I miss the old a little, but am excited about the future.


      1. Yes it is. My son is struggling to know what he wants to do next. He’s very young for a school leaver, so we’ve suggested he travel and try out different kinds of work to see what he enjoys. But he is such an old head on young shoulders in many ways and worries about everything!


          1. Thanks; this parenting lark is way harder than I expected it to be. Still, it’s also way more satisfying than I could ever have imagined — and I have a good imagination. 🙂


  4. I like how you kept that at a decent length – but still gave us the mood and caring feel for the promote and memory – perfect! and I also like how you highlighted how the caring changes as the kid’s age and go through different stages – and when I was checking in with my mom last week – well I still felt her care and it sure never ends – does it? Great day 10! Peace


    1. Thank you Yvette. I try not to write too many words in my words in my posts as readers do not really have the time to read lengthy pieces of writing.
      Being a mom never ends. I know my mom still worries about me, cheers for me, and listens when I need someone to talk to. 🙂


  5. Oh how I would have loved to be a stay at home mom when Hallie was a baby and through all her growing up years. I’m thankful we were with her when she took her first steps. I worked hard to be able to finally work from home and have now been able to enjoy more of her growing up years as teens still need us to be there for them, even moreso in different ways. I think those teen years are the hardest. You are so blessed to have had all that quality and quantity of time with them. And they are blessed to have that time with you.


    1. We certainly have been blessed. And being at home helped us to build a close relationship. Now that they are teens and I am working I do spend less time with them – but I get home early enough that I am able to be there for them when they need me.

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  6. I stayed home with my boys for the better part of a decade and have no regrets. I cherished the time spent and learned to find the extraordinary in the ordinary. I am sure it laid the strong foundation for their values and the kind of men they are today.


  7. When Zia was visiting, one afternoon she mentioned how glad she was that she was able to stay home and raise my cousins. Granted, it was a different time but, like you, she was very thankful for the opportunity to watch her boys grow up.


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