A Sense of Belonging

There have been moments in my life when I have felt an acute sense of belonging: my environment seemed to embrace me, as did the people that surrounded me. I was accepted for who I am and for what I believe in. I felt comfortable enough to say what I felt and to do what I knew was right. At times this sense of belonging has been ripped away from me and I have had to begin all over again to find that sense of knowing that I am where I am supposed to be.

There have been times when I am unsure whether I am in the right place: in the right country, working at the place that is best for me, living in an environment that is most suitable for me and my children. There is one thing for sure though: I do belong with the people I live with. It is they who give me a sense of belonging when I am home. It is they who accept me for what I am – past experiences as well as current. As I struggle to find a sense of belonging in my workplace, or even in the country I am currently living in, they are the anchor that keep me moored and steady.

Whenever I think of “belonging”, I think of a song by Pat Benetar that I used to sing often. The words “we belong together” represent what I feel about my loved ones with whom I live.

I have a sense of belonging at home. And I am sure that eventually I will find the working and living environment in which I feel I belong.

Do you currently experience a sense of belonging?

(This post was inspired by the Five Minute Friday prompt: Belong)

Β© Colline Kook-Chun, 2013


38 thoughts on “A Sense of Belonging

    1. Makes me think of the way we lead our own children to a place of belonging. And isn’t that exactly what He is doing? Sometimes I just need a reminder πŸ™‚


  1. Colline,
    I too wonder if I’m in the right place, but I trust God leads us to each place we go if we listen to his Spirit. Love that Pat Benatar song! Perfect for this. We do belong in our families…<3 that we have sweet littles that God entrusts to us and gives us to experience grace and peace. Have a wonderful weekend! Jenn


  2. It seems that from time to time, we all experience this sense of ‘misplacement’. When I listen to the comments and thoughts of others, I realize that this ‘misplacement’ or loneliness is common. It also seems that as we all struggle through life’s adventure, we tend to pull away from others when they share their own sense of loneliness when they lash out at others, act rudely, seem grumpy, or become distant.

    Wouldn’t it be great if everyone had perfect insight into their own sense of loneliness and then shared that thought with others?

    Connection and sharing our true selves with others is what helps everyone to feel connected no matter what culture or nationality they come from. Having a good listener who listens without judgement to the lived experience of others is what we all need. In a multi-cultural society, this is essential, I believe. When immigrants come to our country, we must ensure they feel welcome.

    Miss my friend, Colline. You are the best listener ever!


    1. Thank you Darlene. πŸ™‚
      Sometimes that is all one needs, isn’t it? To be listened without judgement to so that we can feel that sense of belonging; so that we can feel that sense of being a group.


  3. Dear Colline
    This is so important; to know you are loved and cherished by your family! They are such a precious gift from our Pappa God.
    Blessings XX


    1. That is a lesson learned – to trust that He will send you into an environment where you will eventually belong. It is something I am beginning to realise.


    1. Having moved to a new country, it takes a while to feel that sense of belonging – especially when nine years later we still come up against the obstacles placed in front of immigrants. One thing I am grateful for, though, is that I do have that sense of belonging at home.


  4. I sometimes wonder if finding a sense of belonging in my workplace is more challenging today than “yesterday”. Changing could be one of the factors…


  5. Sometimes, Colline. Sometimes. But I seldom had the feeling in the workplace. I worked at the same job for 30 years and rarely felt a sense of belonging. But you have the love and support of your family and you obviously belong with them. It’s a good place to be.


    1. Thirty years is a long time to work at a place and not feel a sense of belonging. I have felt that sense before, though, when I felt I was working at the right school helping a group of children who needed my help. I am hoping to find that again.


  6. To belong and to be a part of a family makes a huge difference in this world. I believe in the saying, “No man is an island”, and that we all better together. Although it every now and then we need to be alone to think and reflect.


  7. Belonging is a funny thing, I have always felt like a fish out of water, I thought it was just me, but I have heard others saying the same thing. Great post, love that song.


  8. I have always felt like an outsider I think…feel that I don’t belong….sometimes it’s better, sometimes, yes, it’s not as strong………I try to remember the saying “bloom where you’re planted.”


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