I will do it. Just after ….
- I have completed my studies.
- I have saved enough.
- I have had children.
- I get married.
- I get my dream job.
- I have my own place.
How often do we put things off until “after”? Moving forward to do something we claim we want to do, is put off because it is not the “right time”. I recall having a discussion many years ago with my godfather on decorating the space I lived in. I told him I could not wait until I had my own place to decorate the way I wanted (at that time purple and hunter’s green were my favourite colours). His response? Why wait – decorate your own bedroom as if it is your tiny flat. I took him up on the challenge and created a purple-coloured haven for myself which, once I moved out on my own, I transferred to a new home.
Sometimes we wait for “after”, and the wait goes on for many years. The after excuse seems to create an inertia which is almost welcome as we do not take the risks involved in moving on, or do not step out into the unknown. It is a hard habit to break; and one I catch myself doing at times. (At the moment I catch myself saying: “When I have a permanent position, I will …”)
Instead of focusing on “after”, let us focus on “while”: what can we do while waiting for the perfect home, or that dream job. In this way we can live in the present and not constantly look forward into the future; we can enjoy what we are currently experiencing instead of wishing for it to pass quickly.
What “after” excuse are you currently using?
(This post was inspired by the Five Minute Friday prompt: After)